Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Should I feel like I got the shaft this christmas ? (happens every year)?
ok yea it shouldnt be about the money but i understand that you feel like he doesnt care as much about you as he does the others, so now I come to this how good is your realationship with him and how well does he know you? He may not know what to get you. If there has been alot of distance between you he may not feel it is as important to lavish you with gifts espeacially if he hardly sees the grandchild. Now second thing to think about how do you gift him is it thoughtful and well selected or oh crap i forgot dad. If the answer to both questions is he knows me and mine as well as the others and i get the best for him maybe the others just ask for exactly what they want and often or maybe they guilt him into gifts or if they are still at home this could be it. If it bothers you that much say something to your siblings like how come you always get the neat stuff or wow that/those are exspensive what you do to deserve that from dad. Sometimes sibling rivalry can spark some answers and they might suprize you and ask dad how come we get so much and them so little dont ya like him or if nothing comes of it you could make an off hand comment in front of dad , My wife really liked the gift she got from her parents and they got me ( insert gift here) or (wifesname) parents got my daughter this for christmas you shoulda seen how her face lit up or if we had more money we coulda bought daugters name this that she really wanted , if he doesnt take the hint ( you'll know from the next holiday/birthday gift) then next christmas ask him about it but start by saying not that I am trying to sound ungrateful but I noticed that ( siblings names) get alot from you at christmas and I want to make sure that my baby girl doesnt grow up feeling like she has been ousted or jealous of the other grandkids so I was wondering if there was a reason why yes throwing the childs name in is a dirty trick but it makes you look like a concerned parent not a whining adult, it may hurt his feelings but he might be able to shed some light. He may not realize he is doing it. Thats the best I can do without knowing the whole situation. However i am reminded of something I told my boyfriend the other day be grateful for what you do get and remember no one had to get you anything to begin with. Again though I understand that you feel less loved.
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